tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681132888977525688.post1040069267489434423..comments2024-03-29T03:28:22.296-05:00Comments on Writing In The Crosshairs: IF HELL IS OTHER PEOPLE, WHO ARE WE?Roland D. Yeomanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00338410857990551352noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681132888977525688.post-1578553387732748612014-03-30T00:44:37.244-05:002014-03-30T00:44:37.244-05:00Robyn:
Sometimes it is indeed personal but mostly ...Robyn:<br />Sometimes it is indeed personal but mostly it stems from a lack and an emptiness in the attacker. It doesn't take away the hurt, of course.<br /><br />But you and I are wise enough to heal -- the bullies are eternally lacking and empty.<br /><br />I am trying to take care. My eyes are so heavy but I just had to reply to your kind comments. :-)Roland D. Yeomanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00338410857990551352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681132888977525688.post-17267538009293629392014-03-30T00:21:42.285-05:002014-03-30T00:21:42.285-05:00Until lately, I haven't really consciously ack...Until lately, I haven't really consciously acknowledged that when someone attacks me, it's not personal. It's a difficult one for me, and your perspective is helpful. Thank you, Roland. I also like what you said about not wanting a sadistic business partner. Good point.<br /><br />Take care of yourself, Roland.<br />xoRobynRawknrobyn.blogspot.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15997241410192066577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681132888977525688.post-38943987184619258602014-03-29T19:50:32.183-05:002014-03-29T19:50:32.183-05:00David:
Dr. Who is almost an old a franchise as Jam...David:<br />Dr. Who is almost an old a franchise as James Bond! (CBS had a live hour long TV telecast of CASINO ROYALE in 1954!)Roland D. Yeomanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00338410857990551352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681132888977525688.post-5790530276663734322014-03-29T19:13:40.287-05:002014-03-29T19:13:40.287-05:00I realy didn't know much of Derek Martinus wor...I realy didn't know much of Derek Martinus work. I think I only saw Spearhead from Space wit the 3rd Doctor. That is the only problem of following a program that is 50 years old.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06208969934278199592noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681132888977525688.post-33721794066032641002014-03-29T18:50:46.184-05:002014-03-29T18:50:46.184-05:00Inger:
It is so good to see you here! Mother expla...Inger:<br />It is so good to see you here! Mother explained bullies to me when I was young, though I complained that understanding them didn't make my broken nose hurt less!<br /><br />You are right: our last freedom is the freedom to choose what reaction will be ours to others' meanness.<br /><br />I'm glad you see that I try to make my posts applicable to everyone who hurts, not just writers. :-)<br /><br />My cancer surgeries have certainly taken their toll on my writing novels. Victor is complaining that it has been months since I put him in that carnival of the damned -- and would I please get him the sfumato out of it!!! :-)<br /><br />Right now my eyes are so heavy it is not funny. I will lie down for awhile, waiting for the next hospital to call. Whew!<br /><br />David:<br />I love Bruce Campbell too! In my entertainment room is an autographed movie poster of ARMY OF DARKNESS with his autograph, Sam Raimi's, Bridget Fonda, and a few others. "Hail to the King, Baby!" ;-) <br /><br />I only watch BURN NOTICE for him -- all right, and for Fiona, too! I didn't realize until just recently that she was the young escort who danced tango with Pacino in SCENT OF A WOMAN.<br /><br />Sorry to hear that one of the earliest directors of DR. WHO just died at the age of 82. :-(Roland D. Yeomanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00338410857990551352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681132888977525688.post-37587508646027185292014-03-29T18:33:03.300-05:002014-03-29T18:33:03.300-05:00Sorry I was distracted by Bruce Campbell's awe...Sorry I was distracted by Bruce Campbell's awesomeness!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06208969934278199592noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681132888977525688.post-69503231693722063232014-03-29T18:21:36.761-05:002014-03-29T18:21:36.761-05:00It changes things, once you learn that people who ...It changes things, once you learn that people who need to bully you are insecure, don't feel good about themselves, and like to stomp on you with their power, because they can. We are always responsible for our own reactions to people and situations. Your posts are so helpful, not only to writers, but to everyone. It is so good to see the time and care you put into them. And this in addition to books you write and the work you do so support yourself. Do you ever sleep?Ingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02924736131382149056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681132888977525688.post-89340119417769640402014-03-29T11:24:26.718-05:002014-03-29T11:24:26.718-05:00D.G.:
Yes, bullying seems to have scarred so many ...D.G.:<br />Yes, bullying seems to have scarred so many all through history. It is one of the less pleasant universal traits of Man!<br /><br />Sigh: you're right. It seems in order to succeed and be able to support ourselves as writers we must play the game. :-(Roland D. Yeomanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00338410857990551352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681132888977525688.post-2200848079651044312014-03-29T10:46:57.166-05:002014-03-29T10:46:57.166-05:00Roland, I've read several of Sartre's book...Roland, I've read several of Sartre's books, but didn't know about the bullying. His characters were sometimes dark too. Isn't he just saying writers shouldn't be like 'Disneyland', and sell themselves to the marketing machine. Unfortunately now, we don't have much choice. D.G. Hudsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06213237734772028645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681132888977525688.post-40636758377057386242014-03-29T10:14:04.208-05:002014-03-29T10:14:04.208-05:00D.G.:
Once again, just like a man I was blathering...D.G.:<br />Once again, just like a man I was blathering away while you were commenting!<br /><br />Sarte, being a philosopher of existentialism, had a dark view of life.<br /><br />He was awarded the 1964 Nobel Prize in Literature but refused it, saying that he always declined official honors and that <br /><br />"a writer should not allow himself to be turned into an institution"<br /><br />I know that writing can threaten to send me to an institution!<br /><br />When he was twelve, Sartre's mother remarried, and the family moved to La Rochelle, where he was frequently bullied. That could be where he first began to feel as he did about the human race.<br /><br />I feel like the human race is suicidal when I am on the highways!<br /><br />You're right: mothers do want to fix things and make them all better for those they love. :-)Roland D. Yeomanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00338410857990551352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681132888977525688.post-66049066546244740002014-03-29T10:06:25.521-05:002014-03-29T10:06:25.521-05:00Shelly:
How like a man -- I was "talking"...Shelly:<br />How like a man -- I was "talking" while you were commenting!<br /><br />I'm really happy that you got something out of this. Listening and seeing out of the other person's eyes can help us in so many ways. Now, to take my own advice! :-) Thanks for commenting.Roland D. Yeomanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00338410857990551352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681132888977525688.post-84642176082210121042014-03-29T10:04:38.288-05:002014-03-29T10:04:38.288-05:00Hey, Sartre may have been having a bad day at the ...Hey, Sartre may have been having a bad day at the café. And I feel just like that when driving on the freeway.<br /><br />It's up to the writer to educate themselves, not many will hold our hand and guide us through.<br /><br />I subscribe to Writer Beware posts and read that more than the others. And, it's not just a 'guy thing' to want to fix problems, mothers have that inclination as well.D.G. Hudsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06213237734772028645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681132888977525688.post-40487732885273604242014-03-29T10:03:04.046-05:002014-03-29T10:03:04.046-05:00Helena:
Yes, when Maxwell Perkins was an editor th...Helena:<br />Yes, when Maxwell Perkins was an editor the publishing game, though a business, of course, possessed a certain humanity it lacks now. I guess every facet of our culture suffers from such a lack.<br /><br />I'm glad you enjoyed this post. :-)<br /><br />Nilanjana:<br />Listening beneath the surface and putting ourselves in the other person's position is helpful in many facets of our life as you say. I am glad to see you here.<br /><br />Elephant's Child:<br />All of us are cast in roles in people's lives of which we are totally unaware usually. At least we get to pick our own lines! :-)<br /><br />Yes, true listening requires thinking along with hearing the words! Ouch. I don't want to think. :-)<br /><br />Never restrict your thoughts around here. They are all welcome. Have a great weekend.Roland D. Yeomanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00338410857990551352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681132888977525688.post-23996285313569408022014-03-29T09:49:39.938-05:002014-03-29T09:49:39.938-05:00Excellent post, Roland. Good advice for every area...Excellent post, Roland. Good advice for every area in one's life.<br /><br />Hugs and chocolate,<br />Shellyshellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09596621767297173021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681132888977525688.post-47423080074269168922014-03-29T02:51:49.686-05:002014-03-29T02:51:49.686-05:00We are also hell to other people of course - some ...We are also hell to other people of course - some of us more so than others.<br />Love your tips - and if only really listening was as easy as you make it sound.<br />Hard, valuable, exhausting work. As is shutting my mouth.Elephant's Childhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06650565833097914052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681132888977525688.post-46126607850279114082014-03-29T02:30:06.407-05:002014-03-29T02:30:06.407-05:00Excellent tips for non-writing universes too. Ver...Excellent tips for non-writing universes too. Very lucid, very helpful. Thank you.Nilanjana Bosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08656370320322301943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681132888977525688.post-30008370512524746142014-03-29T01:01:21.044-05:002014-03-29T01:01:21.044-05:00What a really helpful post this has been, Roland -...What a really helpful post this has been, Roland -- thank you for the wise advice and the links.<br /><br />Years ago I read a biography of Maxwell Perkins, and I've never forgotten the story it told of what publishing used to be like: a "gentleman's business" in which an editor had the freedom to work with a writer over years, if that's what it took to mold a book. Now publishing houses are run by conglomerates and decisions are made by the marketing department and seldom by even the best editors. Sigh. Times have changed.Helenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14967821142796562697noreply@blogger.com