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FEELING A BIT BITTER THIS VALENTINE'S DAY?
For many singles, instead of being a day for celebration it ends up bringing up feelings of self-doubt, loneliness or depression.
85% of all current relationships are unhappy according to the American Psychiatric Association. Gulp!
Imagine being in one of them this Valentine's Day?
At least if you are single, you have hope you will find that right person that will put you in the 15% category!
Remember That A Relationship Doesn't Define
Who You Are
Just like when someone asks you what you do for a living, the same goes for your relationship status:
Whatever your situation, it isn't the end-all explanation of who you are as a person.
Love, like happiness,
is found
when your mind is focused on giving it to others.
Valentine's is just another day.
Treat it as such.
It's Saturday this year:
sleep in -- do what makes you happy.
Another person cannot
make you happy.
Only you can make you happy.
ONLY when you are whole within yourself
will you attract another whole person.
Two half-people sadly do not
make a whole one:
Only two thirsty people
trying to drink from leaking wells.
It is okay not to be okay.
Sometimes, people need permission to break.
And it is from that broken place
that they are finally able to become whole again.
Above all,
explore the world
waiting for you to discover it.
I agree completely, Roland. We are the masters of our own happiness, and should never hand such precious power over to someone else, no matter how trusted and loved the individual. Happiness comes from within and is achieved by taking responsibility. Defining oneself by one's relationship(s) is a rocky, rocky path indeed.
ReplyDeleteVR Barkowski
VR:
ReplyDeleteYes, when we define ourselves by what others think of us, we become their prisoners. We must be free so that we can interact with others who are free within so that we deepen the freedom of both of us.
I am a bit like Charlie Brown in that I am not overly fond of Valentine's Day and the unrealistic expectations it fosters. :-)
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Great post. I do think Valentines puts a lot of pressure on us to be loving and caring, when we should be like that every day.
ReplyDeleteThat's right - only you can make you happy.
ReplyDeleteThat many are unhappy? Glad I'm in the fifteen percent.
Thank you for the wise words on this over-commercialized holiday. I LOVE Calvin and Hobbes--the perfect antidote for the weekend.
ReplyDeleteNick:
ReplyDeleteValentine's Day puts emphasis on a romantic love that is unrealistic -- and as you say: we should be pro-active in our love each day of our lives. :-)
Alex:
So many are unhappy. And sometimes the spouse feels all is well when her/his mate feels otherwise!
Helena:
Calvin and Hobbes give me so many laughs. I wish Mr. Watterson would return to his creations! Yes, those rascals can boost the morale of many a gloomy heart!! :-) May your weekend be splendid in all the ways you wish!