THANK YOU
to all those at Lifeshare
to all those at Lifeshare
who made me feel special
on my birthday.
on my birthday.
WHAT MAKES A LIFE
WORTH LIVING?
SCHOOL TEACHES US EVERYTHING
BUT WHAT WE NEED TO LIVE FULLY
1.) PARENTS AND SCHOOLS TEACH US
TO MEASURE OUR WORTH
BY HOW WELL WE ARE LIKED
BY IMPORTANT OTHERS.
Giving up the need to be liked by everyone frees us.
We stop wasting enormous energy in chasing a cruel Will O Wisp.
We can focus on just becoming.
And those drawn to the Us that We become that way will be worth sharing the fascinating journey that is life.
2.) BEING AUTHENTIC IS NOT BEING A FREAK
You think an eagle feels a freak when it takes to the skies and soars alone.
In STRANGER THINGS 2,
Jonathan tells his brother that the freaks are the ones who do great things.
Be true to who you are inside and fly like an eagle.
Perhaps if we taught students that in school,
the persecuted ones would find their way without violence to themselves or others.
3.) WE TEACH OTHERS HOW TO TREAT US
Often we think to get along, we must go along.
But in giving in to bullies, we only teach them to treat us worse.
Standing up to a bully will cost. Not doing so will cost more:
your self respect, inner peace, and joy.
Bruises heals. Wounded souls often do not.
Strong boundaries reinforce our self-worth.
4.) WE ARE ENOUGH
Our culture seems intent on persuading us that our lives are lacking:
that we are not enough;
that we do not have enough,
that there is that elusive something out there that will make things wonderful --
Something external.
REMEMBER:
I agree with you totally. I learned the hard way not to like something or take up an interest simply because the rest of the crowd said it's supposed to be liked. And yes, there are moments when our dignity and self respect is far more important than avoiding the physical wounds a bully can cause. I learned that one through several experiences too.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing these words of wisdom and Happy Birthday to you!
Glad you appreciated and liked my words. And thanks for the birthday wishes!! :-)
DeleteWhat we do and say tells people of our own self-worth. We can convey through actions, body language, and words that we aren't important. And others will treat us as such, just like the ones who give into the bullies.
ReplyDeleteSo often people take us the way in which we talk of ourselves. I think that is why confident people draw others to them.
DeleteHi Roland - Happy Birthday during the week - the cake looks fun ... and here's to many more. You're right we are what we are ... but we need to be unique and true to ourselves ... as well as setting standards that others can follow and lead happier, more truthful lives without upsetting people around us. Cheers and all the best for the years ahead - Hilary
ReplyDeleteIt was a grand birthday -- made so by others. If God wanted us to be someone else, He would have made them twins, right? :-)
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