"Nothing I say this day
will teach me anything.
So if I’m going to learn,
I must do it by listening.”
- Larry King
In this #MeFirst culture, people speak a lot ...
about themselves.
Folks may listen,
but they often are merely waiting
for us to pause for breath
so they can jump into the conversation to speak about what concerns them most ...
themselves.
This is an isolated society,
hemmed in by brick walls of
"Can you hear me?"
If everyone is texting,
then no one is reading to pause for reflection
to what has just been written
and what it meant to the person sending.
When you truly listen,
you tell the other person,
"This is important to me.
YOU are important to me."
When people feel heard, they feel validated ...
feel as if they are of worth to someone other than to just themselves.
You don't have to solve the problem, just wince at the impact of the blow to another.
You don't have to agree with the person.
Merely acknowledge their viewpoint.
Truly hearing someone
is not a multi-task experience.
If you are not focused on the person,
you are missing the point of
their speaking.
HAVE YOU TRULY LISTENED
TO SOMEONE TODAY?
Well said! And despite all of our means of communication, most people are still aching to be heard.
ReplyDeleteIf the caring is not there, neither with the ear. Sigh. :-(
DeleteRoland, so very true. I especially love the statement: You don't have to solve the problem, just wince at the impact of the blow to another.
ReplyDeleteThat says so much just in itself.
Compassion is what we all thirst for in our pains, right, Mason?
DeleteI think we all ache to be heard. Nothing wrong with that. What is wrong is when we don't want to do our share of the listening. It works both ways, we learn by both speaking and listening. The more formal term for this is discourse. It's a two way street. But we can learn so much more than most of us do when we listen to each other. When we only talk to be heard, we miss out on a lot.
ReplyDeleteDid I listen? Lol
DeleteAnd the tragedy is that no one listens to someone who only talks to be heard. Sigh. And you DID listen, Steven! :-)
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