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Remember my post on how the latest album cover of Diana Krall saddened me?
Her expression showed depression at being exploited.
(It is well known Diana is uncomfortable in selling her albums with sexy imagery.)
Now, a new cover has been chosen.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B008FSCNTK/ref=pe_180430_25921730_nrn_image
Sigh. All I can say is that it must have been some gruelling photo shoot for Diana.
I'm at odds as to whether to buy her latest album. On one hand, I love her music. On the other hand, I hate to give fuel to those who goaded her into those shots.
Let me know what you think we fans of Diana should do, will you?
Now, about those 5 Truths ...
PSYCHOLOGY TODAY's latest excellent issue talks about the 5 life lessons most people learn too late.
1.) YOU CAN'T FIX THE ONES YOU LOVE, SO FOCUS ON FIXING YOURSELF.
Gandhi wrote: Be the change you want to see in the world. Shouting at the rain never kept anyone dry.
2.) OVERPARENTING HURTS THE CHILD MORE THAN UNDERPARENTING.
Life is a lot like riding a bicycle: no one can take the tumbles for you; you have to learn balance all on your own.
3.) OPPOSITES DON'T FOREVER ATTRACT.
"Opposites Attract" doesn't hold up for the long haul. A person who validates your existing views and habits will nuture a long relationship.
4.) YOUR FRIENDSHIPS ARE AS CRUCIAL TO YOUR HEALTH AS YOUR LIFESTYLE CHOICES.
Low levels of social interactions have the same effect as smoking 15 cigarettes a day and WORSE effects than being obese or not exercising.
5.) LUST HAS A SHORT SHELF LIFE BUT LOVE ENDURES.
Sparks fire up the night. Linked souls and hands last a lifetime.
Don't focus on the storm or the lull in lust. Ask: "What can I do to restore our connection?" Think: "What can I do that would surprise and delight my mate?"
It may be as simple as clearing out that clutter in the basement that bothers your mate so or suggesting the kind of movie you know your mate would love to see but hesitates to ask you to view with him/her.
As in saving accounts, you don't reap dividends unless you invest something of value.
What would be your SIXTH truth that people learn too late?
Remember my post on how the latest album cover of Diana Krall saddened me?
Her expression showed depression at being exploited.
(It is well known Diana is uncomfortable in selling her albums with sexy imagery.)
Now, a new cover has been chosen.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B008FSCNTK/ref=pe_180430_25921730_nrn_image
Sigh. All I can say is that it must have been some gruelling photo shoot for Diana.
I'm at odds as to whether to buy her latest album. On one hand, I love her music. On the other hand, I hate to give fuel to those who goaded her into those shots.
Let me know what you think we fans of Diana should do, will you?
Now, about those 5 Truths ...
PSYCHOLOGY TODAY's latest excellent issue talks about the 5 life lessons most people learn too late.
1.) YOU CAN'T FIX THE ONES YOU LOVE, SO FOCUS ON FIXING YOURSELF.
Gandhi wrote: Be the change you want to see in the world. Shouting at the rain never kept anyone dry.
2.) OVERPARENTING HURTS THE CHILD MORE THAN UNDERPARENTING.
Life is a lot like riding a bicycle: no one can take the tumbles for you; you have to learn balance all on your own.
3.) OPPOSITES DON'T FOREVER ATTRACT.
"Opposites Attract" doesn't hold up for the long haul. A person who validates your existing views and habits will nuture a long relationship.
4.) YOUR FRIENDSHIPS ARE AS CRUCIAL TO YOUR HEALTH AS YOUR LIFESTYLE CHOICES.
Low levels of social interactions have the same effect as smoking 15 cigarettes a day and WORSE effects than being obese or not exercising.
5.) LUST HAS A SHORT SHELF LIFE BUT LOVE ENDURES.
Sparks fire up the night. Linked souls and hands last a lifetime.
Don't focus on the storm or the lull in lust. Ask: "What can I do to restore our connection?" Think: "What can I do that would surprise and delight my mate?"
It may be as simple as clearing out that clutter in the basement that bothers your mate so or suggesting the kind of movie you know your mate would love to see but hesitates to ask you to view with him/her.
As in saving accounts, you don't reap dividends unless you invest something of value.
What would be your SIXTH truth that people learn too late?
Truths:
ReplyDeleteRelationships require nurturing.
Trust in intuition, aka gut instinct.
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I'm a fan of Diana Krall, she's from our Canadian west coast area.
For covers, an art work cover can get away with more than a real person in a photograph can. Body language and lack of eye contact tell us something too.
Buy the album because you love the music, not the cover. I understand your dilema but low record sales because of a cover will not make things better for her. If she wants things to change it is up to her to change them. Maybe hiring a new publisist might help or changing record companies. Next time maybe she should pay more attention to the terms of her contract.
ReplyDeleteRelationship tip from one how has been married almost 25 years,It is important to be able to laugh together and not at eachother :) Laughter should feel good not cruel.
Thanks for the video clip. I'm not familiar with Diana Krall, but enjoyed listening to her while I read through the post. As for the 5 truths, all I can say is wow. Wish I would've learned some of this earlier in life.
ReplyDeleteD.G.:
ReplyDeleteYou're so right. Nothing living (like relationships) thrive without nuturing. Instincts will seldom lead us wrong. I think the lack of eye contact in Diana's photo's tell us something, too.
Siv:
Again, you are wise. Things change for us when we change. I had come to the conclusion to buy the album, too. Laughter with is always more healing than laughing at. So few learn that these days!
Candy:
I have Diana Krall performing at Meilori's in the first LEGEND OF VICTOR STANDISH (which I have been revising, adding a few earlier chapters with Victor and Old Suze.)
I'm happy you enjoyed Diana's music. All of us wish we had been wiser faster. :-)
Flossing is crucial!
ReplyDeleteLovely sentiments Roland, like always.
Excellent truths! Never understood the opposites attract thing. In any relationship, there must be common ground.
ReplyDeleteMost people learn too late that communication is what keeps a relationship going.
And most men never figure out that when a women tells you her problems, she is NOT looking for a solution. Just shut up and listen.
Diana Krall is so talented. I can't imagine her shooting these. I would buy her music because that was her contribution and not some promoter's.
ReplyDeleteExcellent truths. Another would be
Don't procrastinate. Have fun NOW :)
The Desert Rocks:
ReplyDeleteThanks. Always good to see you here!
Alex:
So true. Solutions are good but finding someone that gives a damn is even better! :-)
Heather:
Yes, I had a hard time believing Diana did these photos too. Talent doesn't need tease. And be in the moment is excellent advise!