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Wednesday, October 19, 2016

WHAT YOUR WORDS SAY ABOUT YOU



“When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen.” 
 - Ernest Hemingway

“Most people do not listen with the aim to understand; they listen with the aim to reply.”
 - Mark Twain





 The words we use say a great deal about who we are, where we come from, and how we think.

The same should be true of the characters in our novels.

Take for example, depression ...

One set of studies has linked depression to an elevated use of first person singular pronouns ( I, me, my)

 and a lack of first person plural ( we, our), second, and third person pronouns,

suggesting that these serve as linguistic markers of self-focused rumination

 (narcissists show similar language patterns) and social isolation.

You might want to watch what you say… 

you never know what secrets you just might be giving away.

Which leads me to Kathleen Valentine's Blog which is my next stop on my DON'T BUY MY BOOK! Blog Tour




Where I speak about the importance of internal versus external dialogue in our novels, 

and how I used that duel in my latest novel.




 HILARY MELTON-BUTCHER

Won my Mystery Prize
for commenting on
D.G. HUDSON'S Blog!






VIDYA SURY

won a mystery gift for the additional drawing
for commenters on Lee McKenzie's Blog




Congratulations, Hilary and Vidya!

12 comments:

  1. Focus less on self and more on others.

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    1. Who knew that following the Golden Rule led to mental health, too? :-)

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  2. Awesome insights. It's so true! Of course, then you have shut ins like me who spend the whole day with kids and rarely have any adult conversation. That Me, I, My approach may just be a plea of desperation to be a real person. ;)

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    1. It is hard for adults cooped up with children all day. I was a teacher for a time, and I know. We yearn for adult conversation! :-)

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  3. Few things rile me more than speaking to someone although I'm fully aware they're not listening; they're thinking of what they're going to say next.

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    1. And waiting for you to take a breath so they can jump in and do it! :-)

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  4. Hi Roland - thanks so much for the Audible book .. I will collect anon .. as I don't use Audible - so want to get full value.

    Depression is so difficult ... I get 'depression' when I'm with a friend - who just thinks of himself, never asks how you are or what you're doing ... it's so essential to engage at all levels and listen - but I do hear you ... and I'm a good communicator ...

    Cheers Hilary

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    1. Yes, self-absorbed people make me sad, too. Enough about me. What do you think of me?

      Just joking.

      You mentioned earlier that there were some folks making your life more difficult than it had to be.

      It hurt me to read that. I wish for you better, smoother times. :-(

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  5. I agree with Alex. Society has become really sad. Too many people are all about themselves.

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    1. :-( All too true. Can't wait until October 28th when Macak visits Beanie Bean on your blog! :-)

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  6. These are great insights. Thanks for sharing!


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