FEMALE BULLYING? Why Are Women So Mean To Each Other?

{Image from MEAN GIRLS courtesy of Paramount Pictures}

 

Anne Gallagher (roaming under the pen name, Robynne Rand) wrote an interesting post:

ARE YOUR FRIENDS JEALOUS OF YOU?

http://robynnerandauthor.blogspot.com/2013/05/are-your-friends-jealous-of-you.html

By now, you've heard about CBS Houston sports blogger Claire Crawford

 criticizing Oklahoma City Thunder cheerleader Kelsey Williams' weight in the blog post heard 'round the world.
 
Delta Gamma sister Rebecca Martinson “resigned” from her sorority Wednesday because of her profanity-laced, media-frenzy inducing email.

Martinson’s f-bomb-, threat-laced fury at fellow Delta Gamma members for “literally”

being “boring,” “awkward,” “weird,” “mentally slow” and “stupid”

has gone seriously viral, with major news outlets from ABC News to CNN giving it coverage.

Sad, actually.  The Internet is forever. Unfortunately for her, her ‘online tattoo’ will stick with her for a long, long time—

and it will likely color how peers, future employers, grad school admissions officers, etc., regard her as a person.

She’s going to have to work very hard to show that she's taken this experience and used it to grow into a more mature, thoughtful, tolerant and compassionate person.

But sad, also, because it perpetuates a stereotype that women are trivial, shallow, and cruel to one another.

Women's bodies provide enough challenge: PMS, hormonal civil war, and child birth pains.  If men had the babies, the world would never have to worry about over-population.

Men don't want to do something that feels good for 12 hours straight!

If men suffered every month like women, no male world leader would be trusted with the nuclear launch codes.

Yet, all of you ladies out there remember the cruelty of "Female Bullying."  You learned early the main rule: GIRLS IN THREES ARE BAD.

Girls gossip about other girls, they steal each other’s boyfriends, they talk about one girl’s flaws to other girls. They’re mean.

We’ve all probably seen the movie MEAN GIRLS where, in the end, the lead Mean Girl gets run over with a truck, right?

Or even HEATHERS, which is an even older, darker twist to the Mean Girls.

So this is a sort of accepted practice then in society. Girls pick on other girls. Do we do enough to stop it? OR do we continue the behavior throughout adulthood and then really allow our own daughters to just mimic adult society?

If every girl outgrew bullying when they graduated high school, it would be bad -- yet, many take it with them in the competitive world of business and the neighborhood.

Look at all the media articles on Yahoo and other sites who compare celebrities wearing the same dress, hawking, "WHO WEARS IT BETTER?"

In the end, shouldn't women learn to take care of each other?
Or, at the least, to respect each other?

 When a friendship ends, mourn the loss and move on. Leaving gossip and threats behind seems the healthy way to pay tribute to something that once nutured.

In the bigger picture, we’re all on the same side -- each of us is under a death sentence, pre-ordained in our DNA.  No matter how illusively long it might appear at times, life is short.

Let's enjoy the ride with those who are taking the journey with us as much as it lies within our power to do so.

Why do you think women are so often cruel to one another

when they should be closing ranks against so many men in power who prey on them?

Don't forget ...

Hibbs, the Bear with Two Shadows is coming SOON to audio!