Posts
Are you feeling lower self-esteem?
Are you feeling growing emotional dependence on the person striking sparks from you?
Are conflicts with that person funneling you down a rabbit hole of
frustration, confusion, and anger, making you question your perceptions?
When we find ourselves, like now, penned in with people for extended periods of time.
lies, trivializations, and denial are easier to use to make the unsuspecting doubt themselves.
Are you hearing
"You're being dramatic."
"You're blowing things out of proportion."
"That never happened."
"You're remembering wrong."
You might reply:
"I know what I saw."
"Denying reality does not change it."
"I will not continue this conversation if you continue to minimize my feelings, my thoughts, in essence myself."
"By minimizing me like this, you are saying more about your own deficiencies than mine."
Be kind to yourself ...
even if it means walking out of the room ...
or out of the relationship.
 |
That's the best thing to do - just get away from the toxic person.
ReplyDeleteUnless you are married to him/her. Ouch!
DeleteHi Roland - it's an awful scenario and a dreadful word ... I've just asked someone to take it out of a report they've written - it was completely the wrong context. Equally I understand your post - just get away and keep your sanity... all the best - Hilary
ReplyDeleteWe have to keep an eye out for those who do not mean us well and have hidden agendas.
Delete