I have ...
actually I am currently being bullied by an abrasive lab tech with whom I have to work alone during the weekend.
I need the weekend money, but I could do without the harrassment from an ill-tempered woman.
Sadly, my blood center follows the maxim: The squeaking wheel does not get the grease; it gets replaced.
This has gone on for nearly two years.
Here is the email (real name withheld):
Dear Director of Human Resources:
35% of adult Americans experience workplace bullying (WBI 2010 U.S. National Survey).
I am concerned that the offensive behavior of Lab Tech, Jane Porter, in Lake Charles may be contributing to a hostile work environment.
I am just a Distribution Tech. In the scheme of things, I am unimportant. Jane Porter is a Lab Tech, bringing in revenue to Lifeshare. She is important to Lifeshare.
For well over a year, she has been rude and offensive to me. As a Distribution Tech in Lake Charles, I am dependent on Beaumont to meet me.
Often they are busy with other blood runs. One instance: I was delayed by the Beaumont courier and wrecks both going to and coming back for a sample.
I explained the delay. Jane snatched the sample from my hand and snarled, “Yeah, right!”
She, in effect, called me a liar. I said nothing. Months of such behavior have been unpleasant to endure.
But I am an adult. I just focused on doing the best job I could.
Some months back I asked why her attitude was so negative with me. She just smirked. It was the typical response of a bully.
Today (May 25th), she hung up on me twice.
Jane called letting me know a Texas hospital had a sample to be picked up. I followed my supervisor’s orders by contacting the Distribution Tech scheduled to be at the center.
The Beaumont courier was delayed by already being at another site. Later Jane called me demanding to know what I had been doing.
I tried to explain and said I would contact the Distribution Tech handling the affair and would be right on it.
She snapped, “You said that 2 hours ago!” And she hung up on me. Actually it was an hour, but I know to her it might have seemed longer.
Calling my co-worker, I found out the details of the delay. I called Jane back explaining the delay. I asked her, “Please do not hang up on me again.”
“Yeah, right!” she laughed and promptly hung up on me.
Obviously, Jane is not going to change her attitude and her behavior with me. I am an adult. I can deal with dysfunctional behavior. After all, I have a Master’s degree in Psychology.
But I know that such behavior can spread to others in her world.
If it spreads to a blood bank tech at one of our hospitals – one for whom she feels the superiority and scorn she feels towards me, it could endanger a hospital account for Lifeshare.
I would not be conscientious if I did not bring to your attention the possibility that Jane’s attitude might contribute to a hostile work environment with one of our hospitals.
I will continue to give my very best work performance to Lifeshare and strive to work with Jane with as little friction as I can arrange on my part.
Yet, dysfunctional people do not improve unless treated. Their symptoms only grow worse.
Thank you for reading this. Respectfully yours, Roland D. Yeomans
Have you ever been bullied by a co-worker at work?
How did you handle it?